What is it with guys who want ts

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I can not believe it I went looking at the guys interested in transgender woman, I being one of them.
I was amazed at the married guys wanting us for extra-sexual experiences. I for one would like a single guy never married, as I am. I have had --- with to many married guys who have hang ups with kissing you or cuddling. Afterwards I have felt like a used --- toy.
I am also amazed at those who just want us for --- period. I want more then the ---. I want to first have a friendship that builds. To have a man take me out on the town or even for a trip or whatever, to treat me like a prized possession and be willing to stand up for me in public. To be a knight or prince. To this lady or princess.
I think transgender woman deserve more.
I would love to see more guys who are wanting relationships and not --- only. That I do not have to be someones hidden affair.

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`well honey, i feel for you. though its a sad reality that most men only like transgendered people for sex, there are plenty of decent guys out there looking for the same thing that you are looking for. so try to hang on, try to be sane as possible and you will meet him. but while he is not around. try to have some fun. but always remember, you are a lady. and ladies dont accept crap and s--- from men. have a wonderful journey.

[northernboy]

biirthaz wrote: I can not believe it I went looking at the guys interested in transgender woman...I was amazed at the married guys wanting us for extra-sexual experiences... I am also amazed at those who just want us for --- period.
biirthaz wrote: I have had --- with to many married guys...

^ well, there's your problem right there.

[northernboy]

clionicole wrote: there are plenty of decent guys out there looking for the same thing that you are looking for. so try to hang on, try to be sane as possible and you will meet him.

this is good advice in my opinion. just be patient biirthaz, it will come when the times right.

[dizzyoceallaigh]

`well can anybody tell me why, when i want to meet a ts girl and am genuinely interested ina relationship, i can't find one?!!
seriously, i have met one ts in my life and i was with her for 6 months, but it didn't work out. two years later, i am still waiting to meet another! i'm in ireland, dublin to be exact, if there are any girls out there interested in a meet, then get in touch, pleeeease! it's so hard to meet you in my country (my other ts girlfriend was in colombia!!!)
i am honest and keen. get in touch

[dacdac]

`Seriously!! I get turned down so much because of the guys that just want to get thier rocks off!! WTF. I dont even get a chance...Its kind of odd,but ya. Just wanted to yell for a sec about the h---- dogs out there that ruin my chance at having a relationship....gay.

Daniel

[girl2doorsdown]

`Since we're on the topic of "why do guys like trans girls"...let me reiterate the question. In a few sentences...why do YOU (the reader) want to meet a transsexual girl (or boy)?

While everyone is chewing on that...I'll put in my two scents of why I THINK guys like trans girls...and then why they SHOULD like them (for reasons that the average observer might not realize).

I think one of the first things that jumps out at me about the male attraction to the transgendered...is for pure curiosity (and this would also stand true to the female attraction to a trans man). I suppose that's where it starts...and then probably grows to genuine admiration after a positive experience with one. So WHY the curious attraction in the 1st place?

I believe that humans (as a species) are generally "wired" more for a bisexual existence (not just --- for procreation).

Allow me to explain. I think there are very few of us who are exclusively strait, or exclusively gay...rather, I believe that we probably all fall somewhere in the middle of the two extremes. This may come from my science background (if you choose to believe this kind of thing)...but there are species of primates that are very promiscuous and regularly use --- as a form of social communication that seems to serve more than JUST as a source of pleasure. This includes hetero & homosexual interactions between different members of a particular social group.

When you continue that line of primate behavior to humans...its not difficult to imagine that we too (as a species) use --- as a form of social communication and interaction. Here's a prime example too...PRISON. Now, don't laugh, I'm serious. I've watched the specials on TV...and I've heard the guys say, "I'm strait, but I have --- with men...that's just the way it is". In this instance --- is being used as a form of dominate communication and stress relief too. Let's face it...--- in prison serves a purpose. In that environment I believe that the individuals primal instincts kick in...and that's why there is --- in prisons. Can any of the X-cons back that up for me?

Now, that's just one example. So when you look at the evolution of our species when we left the jungles of Africa...the species that flourished did so because they worked as a family group. This gave a distinct survival advantage over species that had a more solitary existence. Look at the survival rates of lions vs. leopards in modern Africa...FAMILY WORKS.

How this affects us today is...that in these social groups there would inevitably be times when members of the group would have to pick up the slack of other members. This is where I personally believe that the "transgender" role of our species was conceived. If there weren't enough hunters to go out...perhaps a gatherer went instead. And visa versa...if they're weren't enough nurturers...members of the hunter group were needed for that gender role. I think the transgender option gave our species an evolutionary advantage and is still exhibited in our species til this day.

So, fast forward to modern times when people's brain development gave them the evolutionary advantage. This would put the gender-variance gene on the back burner...but it remained there anyway. It's like ANY other gene...it may not be exhibited in every generation...but it's there JUST in case it's needed.

In modern times though...the social structure changed very much...and different influences steered our species away from these primal behaviors. For instance...have you ever just wanted to BASH someone's face in because they pissed you off? THAT'S a primal instinct. You can't GET RID of those feelings...you can only try to control them. It's EVOLUTION baby. I believe that a man's (or woman's) attraction to another individual is merely primal. We'd do everyone if we could...it's in the blue print, and you can't take it out.

Intelligent design? Hardly. We as a species are the end product of a whole lot of fooling around. It's like in the movie "Species"...there was a monster down inside that girl...and WE ALL are no different. We are ALL animals with primal instincts.

So just to tie this all in to the topic of WHY guys like transgirls. They do, because they do...period. It doesn't make them "gay"...it makes them human.

I think in today's society we try to label the heck out of everything to better understand it...but by doing so we just make it harder to understand. It is what it is. Either you like to take it or give it...the sun's still gonna rise tomorrow...so get over it already.

NOW...here's why guys SHOULD like transgirls...and NOT because they want to get it in the rear. No...a transgirl can be an amazing experience. Where else can you have someone who understands you on a deeper level. I'm talking post-op, pre-op, whatever. I mean...wanting to date a transgirl JUST because she has a ----- is just as dumb as wanting to date a genetic girl JUST because she has huge b--bs. My point is...don't be so shallow. Now, I understand that transgirls are more rare than genetic girls...but you have to do what you have to do to meet one.

It's okay to like who you like...don't over *nalyze it...just go GET YOU SOME!


The Girl 2 Doors Down

Ok, it was more than 2 cents...more like $4.18...but hey, you got your moneys worth. (edited out the potty-mouth, sorry)

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Wow girl2doorsdown I liked your $4.18 worth. I do agree with a lot of what you wrote but I believe when it comes to men many just do not have that much respect or integrity.

Most men that ask me out are married and I will not date a married man, never have and never will as I will not be a partaker of his disrespect and lack of integrity.

Most of the single men that ask me out are only asking me out for the --- which they soon find out they do not receive any as I do not do the --- thing on the first, second or third date. I look at it this way if a guy is willing to date me and enjoy my company and allow us to get to know one another for four or more dates then just maybe he might be someone worth dating.

I have found most men for some reason think that if you agree to go on a date with them then you are agreeing to have --- with them when they want it. I do not know where so many men have come up with the notion that a TS woman is always ready to get on her knees. Most TS women I know are not that willing to service a man on the first date or any date as far as that goes.

Lately I have been keeping to myself as I am quite tired of the bend over baby I'm driven attitude I find so often. I am seriously thinking about dating only women and forgetting that I like men. It seems the only time I get treated as a lady is by another lady.

Well that's my $3.00 worth.

quiettgirl

[yavor]

`I expect to find love and care from a more sensitive being not some B----. I like to give but to receive support as well and loyalty. I am sick of egoistic brats and "women" obsessed with themselves and career and some muscled good looking and rich guys (my will to meet new women dissapeared after some bad experiences). Well ... i don't know i dont need a girlfriend, but a girlFRIEND and i think TS might be more what i am looking for... but not totally pesimistic there are one or two girls in around 10.000 that are worth it but hard to find.

[(deleted)]

`lol well I think its funny. If you all go to a site for gg's you'll read the same complaints. The fact is most men are jerks. If you want to meet a nice guy date him for a while. Do not have --- with him for at least 6 weeks and tell him your not going to. If he sticks around and you both still like each other after spending that much time together you should be good. Oh and if he's married don't go out with him in the first place.
Now the reason I like t-girls is because I'm bisexual. I like giving and receiving. I've tried dating men but because i'm good looking they try and treat me like a --- toy and when I say no they get pissed and stop talking to me. I usually date women but I miss the versatility in the bed room. If I can get the softness and -------ity of a woman with the versatility in the bed room why wouldn't I want to.

[(deleted)]

`I am not interested in transgender women for the ---. I want to find a person that I can connect with on multiple levels, someone who I can feel completely comfortable with. I am bi, so I look for the romantic, spontaneous relationship of both worlds. It only matters about who the person is on the inside. Personality, people, personality. Love them for who they are.

[h3trt33]

`Wow! Girl2doorsdown, have you ever considered witing an in depth book on the subject?

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`hey id like to meet a ts girl but i would like it to be more than just casual id actually like to get to know you and if where not t ofar away meet up for a few dates and see how we like eachother then take it from their

but just to be up front i think ts girls are beautiful i am a mild crossdresser/bi but more top than anything it would be my first experience in talking, dating and anything else if it goes that far with a st girl i just came on this site a few days ago
oh and you have to be somwhat passible you dont need to be 1st prize cause as long as you have a great personality ill parade you around like a princess so if youd like to talk text me the # on my profile or hit me up on my page hope to hear from someone soon

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It seems like all the guys in my area just want --- and all the guys who want a real relationship are thousands of miles away. Plus another problem for me is that a lot of guys want a woman like me because they want the "best of both worlds" when the reality for me after years of hormones is that I'm "neither world" if that makes sense.

~~~Sweet cuz I'm diabetic and Hot cuz I'm turning on the fan when everyone else is puttin on the sweater and a Fairhaven Girl cuz that's where I live and what I want to be- the kind, gentle place you come to so you can avoid the storms of the sea.

[james94619]

`I am looking for a relationship, my problem is that 99.5% of the Transsexual girls I meet are hookers, (nothing against hookers mind you). The .5% that are not are usually taken. I know I'm looking in all the wrong places so I must ask where do I look?